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Why Sex Before Marriage Isn't Good

Updated: Jan 22, 2019

"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body."

(1 Cor. 6:18)

Most people think that it is okay to have premarital sex while using proper protection to avoid an unwanted pregnancy or a sexually transmitted disease. But there is more to sex than just a physical connection with physical consequences. The Bible tells us that when man and woman have sex they become one flesh (Eph. 5:31). This means that the bodies that were united by sex become one entity that cannot be divided into pieces and still be whole. The couple becomes one at the level of the spirit, mind and soul. God intended this union to take place only within the context of marriage.

Sex not only makes two people become one body, it also knits their souls together, thus creating a powerful emotional bond between them. These emotional bonds (commonly referred as soul ties) can be described as deep and powerful feelings formed by the relationship between two people. People who are bonded might become dependent or attached to each other physically, emotionally and mentally.

Emotional bonds can be created with or without sex, however, sex just makes things more complex. It takes the bond to a whole new level. Premarital sex creates ungodly emotional bonds because the sexual act is rooted in sin. As a result, this bond can be detrimental, damaging and toxic. It might produce fear, sadness, resentment, shame, guilt and other unwanted feelings.

Ungodly emotional bonds formed by premarital sex are like chains that keep two people captive in their souls. For example, if the relationship ends, they might not be able to stop thinking about the other person long after the breakup, they might not be able to forgive the other person for real or imagined wrongs, they may have difficulty moving forward with their lives. In this ungodly bond is not broken, people can remain captive for a long time.

Ungodly emotional bonds will affect the way you approach future relationships. You might become very guarded because you don't want to be hurt again. Sadly, lots of believers are so wounded from past relationships that they are unable to recognize the man or woman that God is bringing to their lives.

The most devastating consequence of premarital sex is that it separates you from God just as any other sin does.