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Three Red Flags You Shouldn't Ignore

Updated: Jan 22, 2019

Millions of people have married someone they thought was the “right” person, only to realize years later they chose wrong and end up getting a divorce. Why is this mistake so common among love seekers? The answer is this: something or someone that looks good and seems good, if it is not God’s will for you, will not be good at all.

In this blog post, I will describe three typical behaviors that might resemble men you have dated or possibly will date in the future. These behaviors illustrate that they may not be interested, ready for commitment, or taking things as seriously as you are. I have called these behaviors Red flags.

Red flags mean there are things that need to be worked out, clarified, changed or resolved before continuing with the relationship. A red flag will make you ask to yourself, “Is this really what I want and deserve?”

You might find that some of these scenarios are familiar to you and think, "Oops! Seems like she's describing just the guy I'm dating." With each red flag I will give you a piece of advice to follow.

RED FLAG #1: You don’t know the “status” of your relationship.

Have you ever dated a man who never officially asked you to be his girlfriend and you didn't know the status of your relation? I did, and I felt so confused and insecure because I didn't know where things were heading. If you are in that situation, your greatest fear might be that he is wasting your time. Maybe you're afraid to ask him where are things heading because you don’t want him to run away. Therefore, you decide not to put pressure of any kind, you play it cool and fun, but deep inside you are desperate to have an answer to all your questions. 

No woman should ever find herself in this situation. Before you let a man treat you as a girlfriend, wait for him to make a proposal to start a relationship. This will allow you to know what his intentions are and where things are heading. That proposal can be something such as:

“I would like start dating you exclusively. What do you think?”