One of the biggest obstacles for many single people who wish to succeed in love is fear. Many people destroy their relationships or run away from them because they have not been able to overcome fears and traumas of their past. Most fears have their root in something that happened to us in the past. All fears are linked to past disappointments, hurt and pain.
As believers, we have not been called to live in fear but rather in the freedom that can only be experienced through complete trust in God. Trusting in God allows us to face the future confidently and sets us free from the wounds and traumas of our past.
God knows that during the course of our lives, fear inevitably is going to assault us in different ways. Yet God's instruction has always been this: fear not.
"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand."
(Isa. 41:10)
The only way to overcome our fears is by confronting them. And how do you confront them? We confront them with the Word of God.
FEAR OF REJECTION
One of the most common fears that single people face is the fear of rejection. I had to overcome this fear myself. Not only the disappointment of several relationships made me think that there was something wrong with me, that I was not good enough and that I had to try harder. But also, I had to overcome several wounds from my childhood. Statements such as "You are good for nothing," "You disappoint me," "You always do things wrong," began to sow small seeds of rejection into my heart. The fruit of those seeds became fear of failure, of not being accepted, or of being taken advantage.
Our emotional wounds from the past take time to heal, and it is only Jesus who can free us from the pain that other people caused us. As Jesus's love begins to heal you, it will be possible for you to gain confidence in yourself and to discover your true worth as a person, just as He did it for me.
You will overcome the fear of rejection when you understand and embrace the following:
"And may you have the power to understand, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep is God's love for you. May you experience the love of Christ. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God."
(Eph. 3:18-19)
Understanding how precious you are to God and how great His love is for you is the first step toward being delivered from the fear of feeling unworthy of love. God's love will make you a complete person, not needing anyone's attention or approval.
In my book Love On Hold, I dig deeper into the topic of how to Overcome The Fears of Love & Dating. I explain the three-step-process to overcome FEAR that will help you overcome any fear you might be facing. Also, I present the top five fears that most single people are facing and how to successfully be set free from all of them.
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For the love you truly deserve,
Cintia Stirling
