"Allow yourself to be found by a man like the Jacob of the Bible, a man of determination, willing to fight for you. You deserve it!"
Cintia Stirling
Hi beautiful!
Most people's standards for choosing a partner are physical attraction and chemistry rather than biblical attributes displayed by godly men and woman. Usually, when people are physically attracted, they immediately think they are meant for each other. There is nothing wrong with being physically attracted to the person you want for your spouse; it is actually important. However, chemistry and physical attraction alone will never be enough to form lasting and successful love relationships.
God wants us to be spiritually, emotionally and physically fulfilled in love. These three areas are always connected. The most important aspect of fulfillment in marriage is spiritual, which will lead to emotional fulfillment, and ultimately, physical fulfillment. If God is not at the center of your marriage, how can you achieve complete emotional intimacy with your husband? And if you are not emotionally close to your husband, how can you achieve physical fulfillment? This is simply not possible.
In this blog post, I am going to focus on one important biblical attribute of a godly man that every woman should aspire to find when looking for a husband. That attribute is DETERMINATION.
A MAN OF DETERMINATION
"Since Jacob was in love with Rachel, he told her father, 'I will work for you seven years if you'll give me Rachel, your younger daughter as my wife.'"
(Gen. 29:18)
A man of determination knows what he wants and works hard for it until he gets it. In the realm of love, a determined man knows which woman he wants and will fight for her until he conquers her heart.
For a determined man, nothing is an obstacle great enough to stop him from fighting for the one he loves. He won't be stopped or discouraged by time, distance, finances, religion, culture, or family background.
The Jacob of the Bible was a man with determination. From the moment he saw Rachel, he was captivated by her beauty and charm. It was truly love at first sight. Jacob so loved her that he worked for Rachel's father seven years in exchange of Rachel's hand. The Bible says that his love for her was so strong that his time of waiting seemed to him but a few days (Gen.29:20)
How many women invert the roles and instead of allowing a man to fight for them, they fight for him? Sometimes, women think it is convenient to facilitate things for men by taking the first step.
If you want to do yourself and the man who will be your husband a favor, do not pursue him. Do not facilitate things for him. Let him be a man, let him fight for you! Find out if he is a man with determination and whether or not he is willing to commit to you. Allow yourself to be found by a man like Jacob, a man with determination. You deserve it!
In my book Love On Hold, I explain in detail Seven Biblical Attributes to Look For in a Husband. These attributes will help you attain spiritual fulfillment in your relationship, which in turn will also help you be emotionally and physically fulfilled.
If you got something out of this blog post, this is just the tip of the iceberg! Get the tools you need to navigate your journey as a single woman with Love On Hold.
For the love you truly deserve,
Cintia Stirling
